68.点拨其心智,胜于助其回忆
点拨其心智,胜于助其回忆。前者需要思考,后者只需回忆。许多人不能在恰当的时候做恰当的事,只是因为他们一时未能想起来。在这种情况下,朋友的提醒可让他们看清事物的利弊。能审时度势、提供当下所需是人的一大天赋——缺少了它,许多事就无法继续。如果你有见事之明,就应为他人指点迷津。如果你没有,就请他人帮助你。前者你要慎重,后者你要急切。为人引路时须谨慎行事,点到即可。如果事关当事人的利益,而你已提醒他小心,则更需讲究这个技巧。一开始,你只需让他有所领悟;如果还不够,就应提供更多的信息。假使对方不以为然,你就应运用技巧让他赞同。很多事情没有结果,只是因为没有尝试罢了。
68.Itisbettertohelpwithintelligencethanwithmemory
Itisbettertohelpwithintelligencethanwithmemory。Thelatterneedsonlyrecollection,theformerrequiresthought。Manypersonsomitwhatisappropriatetothemomentbecauseitdoesnotoccurtothem;afriend'sadviceonsuchoccasionsmayenablethemtoseetheadvantages。Itisoneofthegreatestgiftsofmindtobeabletoofferwhatisneededatthemoment:forwantofthatmanythingsfailtobeperformed。Sharethelightofyourintelligence,whenyouhaveany,andaskforitwhenyouhaveitnot,thefirstcautiously,thelastanxiously。Givenomorethanahint:thisfinesseisespeciallyneedfulwhenittouchestheinterestofhimwhoseattentionyouawaken。Youshouldgivebutatasteatfirst,andthenpassontomorewhenthatisnotsufficient。IfhethinksofNo,gocleverlyinsearchofYes。Mostthingsarenotobtainedsimplybecausetheyarenotattempted。
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